Jenn’s Coffee Break: Beauty and Social Media on the Seacoast

It’s interesting that when a friend shares on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc. that they have lost weight, changed their hair color or got their nails done, they don’t follow it up with feeling as though by doing any of them is vanity driven.  Why then if we decide to have plastic surgery do we feel the need to justify it not only to ourselves, but to all our friends in our social circle?
In a world where we post everything about ourselves for the world to see from our false eyelash mascara to our Portsmouth spray tan, why is it so taboo to accept that some of us enhance ourselves with plastic surgery.  For me personally, my friends and family are accepting of the fact that I highlight my hair, spray tan, wear false eyelashes, always wear lip gloss, whiten my teeth and own more shoes and boots than anyone should.  Nobody ever says that I am vain when the above is posted on social media.  I actually get just the opposite such as “I love your hair that color”, “your spray tan looks so natural, where did you go Portsmouth”, “nice boots, did you get them in Rye, how much did they cost” and on and on.  When people find out that I was planning to have  surgery with Dr Gaudet, or had plastic surgery already, I have heard “you don’t need it”, “aren’t you pretty enough”, “age gracefully”.
My argument is simple really.  If I wish to enhance myself so that I feel more confident does it really matter what route I take to get the end result?  If it makes me vain that I get my lips filled so my lip gloss has something to sit on or having liposuction of my abdomen so my clothes fit better because the hundreds of crunches I do every week weren’t quite cutting it, then so be it.
Plastic surgery is most often a very emotionally charged experience.  Why do we make it so difficult for the person deciding to undergo a breast augmentation they have desired for years?  At the end of the day, the very last reason on the long list of reasons for having surgery is vanity.
Since social media is here to stay, lets change the way we interact with each other when it involves body enhancement, even if it is something as simple as Botox for that scowl line you hate (most likely caused by stress).  Let’s congratulate and encourage rather than pass judgement.  We only travel this road once and I plan to touch up the paint on this car at the first sign of rust and post the picture with pride.
Now when it comes to posting pictures of every meal you eat that is a totally different story.  I would love to hear from you and welcome any and all comments.

Patient Care Coordinator
Charles J. Gaudet, M.D., FACS
Piscataqua Plastic Surgery and Skin Care
330 Borthwick Avenue, Suite 206
Portsmouth, NH  03801